career change

3 Ways To Deal With Changes & Life Transitions: Coaching Call

07 14 2016

The ‘average Mo’ has about 10-20 transitions in their lifetime.  I reckon I’ve had my fair share in the past five years alone!  How about you?

I see transitions as those BIG things – marriage, moving home, babies, career changes – as well as those smaller internal shifts which can have just as much impact.  Really, it’s a matter of perspective – whatever feels like a big deal to you IS a big deal.  

This coaching ‘hangout’ was designed to give you some reassurance that you’re NOT losing your marbles – there is a science to coping with change.  I also share some tips and tools to help you as you ride the rollercoaster!

You can watch the recording of the first Cocktail Hour coaching call below.  

Think back to times of change for you: how did you negotiate the change?  Share your tips to help someone else!

NB: The Cocktail Hour will be a monthly get-together.  Submit your question for next month: hello@emmagwillim.com

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Times They Are A-Changing: A Note On Being Authentic

07 03 2016
Things here feel in ‘transition’ at the moment. Have you ever had that feeling that you’re getting ‘tugged’ inside to make a change?
 
In the (almost) five years since we got married, and had our two boys, it’s been an ongoing transition… and I feel like the bigger transition has been INSIDE ME. 
 
If you’re a mum, you might be like me – what you want to create for yourself and your family has shifted a little.  YOU have shifted a little.  Yes, you’re still that same girl at heart but maybe the 2.0 version!
 
How about you?  What was it that you felt called to do or be pre-kiddos?  And how has that shifted now?  Who were you before and who are you now that you’re someone’s mum as well as YOU?
 
One thing is crystal clear for me – that’s who I want to help and my BIG WHY. 
 
But how I want to work and create that has (and is) shifting.
 
So, I’m going against the grain.  The ‘perfectionist’ in me wants to only present the finished product to you, once I’ve worked it all out, but I’ve decided to share the behind-the-scenes with you as I work through the process of change…. (I’m sharing this behind-the-scenes with my gang in a secret group – click here to get in)
 
So, my ‘why’ (aka the thing, the purpose, the cause that inspires me to do the thing I want to do) is:
 
I want to help mums to be seen as who they really are.  Helping you to rediscover your true you, who you want to be and what you want to be known for.  To use my mindset expertise to help you clear the ‘stuff’ holding you back.  And then to help you design a crystal clear ‘personal brand’ so you can be seen and shine – and inspire your children to do the same.
 
This is awkward.  I can usually find the words I want but here I struggle to put it succinctly.  (Personal brand sounds superficial as it’s way deeper than that…. Hmmm?) So, how about this? 
 
“My purpose is to help women be seen for who they really are so they can nurture their passions as well as their family – and be role models for the little eyes watching”. 
 
What do you think to that?  That’s what inspires me and I’m going to be in ‘creation’ mode as I evolve what I can do to help do that (and craft a clearer way of articulating it!).
 
I truly value your opinion so if you have something to say comment below and share your thoughts.  When it comes to how you feel about you, what is it that you struggle with or have a negative feeling about?
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Well THAT was embarrassing. Did you see it?

06 19 2016

Let me just acknowledge the elephant in the room.  I disappeared for a while.

Maybe I owe you a little explanation.  I’ll come to that in a moment…

The reason for sharing with you is I believe I can shed some light on what NOT to do if this story is something you can relate to.

I’ll also share what happened when I took the leap – and it totally back-fired!  

So, back to the point, I disappeared.  I checked out for a bit.

If truth be told… I was hiding away from you guys.  You see, my passion is helping people to be their best selves, helping them to live their sparkle and yet, rewind a year, and I felt so far from that myself.

I felt a fraud.  I felt I needed to be the finished product to be able to help you.  I thought I needed to go away and fix parts of my life first.  It’s the perfectionist in me – I wanted to do this thing right.  If I was to help you then surely I’d need to be an expert in, and perfect in, all areas.

Writing this to you now I realise how ridiculous it sounds.  Yet still a part of me whispers “who am I to be able to help anyone else when there’s still things I’m working on?”  Old habits die hard, as they say.

But striving for utopia is perfectionism on over-drive.  It’s me procrastinating on the one thing I feel really called to do – to help, to write, to show up in ways that help you create your best life.

So, what not to do?

Don’t wait for the perfect time. There never is one.

Don’t wait for the perfect opportunity to show up.  It won’t.

Don’t wait to feel like you’re ready/perfect. You won’t – nothing changes unless YOU change.

What’s standing between you and what you want?

I’ve spent the best part of my lifetime hiding and actively avoiding attention.  But deep down I know that standing between me and what I want (helping people on a bigger scale), I need to come out of hiding and push my comfort zone

So this week I decided to be brave.  I love to write to you but I know sometimes I hide behind the written word. Speaking up is my challenge.  I made a commitment to my awesome coach to “show my face”.  I gave my word that I’d share on Facebook Live.

This was majorly uncomfortable.  By showing up on Facebook Live I had to do the opposite of my default attention-avoidance, as if I was saying “look at me, I’m here and I have something to say.”  That is hugely out of my comfort zone.  It’s LIVE people – there’s zero room for perfectionism.

My insecurities were laid bare – insecure in the value of what I had to say, how I was saying it, how I was looking while saying it.  To me, I was raising my head over the parapet and opening myself up to being judged.  (That’s not to say that’s what I expected of the gorgeous peeps who might see it but they were the warning bells clanging by that ‘chimp brain’ of mine that’s trying to protect me.)

And I can’t tell you how (embarrassingly) long my finger hovered over the scary “Go Live” button.

BUT THEN… The utopia came to mind.  The life I imagine and the ‘me’ in it tapped me on the shoulder and, instead, I asked: “What would that Emma do?”  So, I pressed the button and I did it.

(Did you see?  It was a disaster.  The sound did not work!!!  I  chatted to myself for 8 minutes! EMBARRASSING. But I did it and I left it up there as proof, imperfect as it is!)

And here’s the lesson I’ve learned that I want to share.

I’ve come to learn that success is in the little victories.  I’d been focusing on the end game – striving for that finish line of success before I can help.

What’s courage anyway?  To me it’s letting your want/need for something be just a fraction bigger than your fear.  It’s a succession of moments like that, each moment getting you that little bit closer to your desired you and desired destination.

So, I ask again.  What stands between you and what you want? And what can you do to have courage (that’s just a tiny bit bigger than your fear) for one bold moment this week?

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The Love Letter... Totally Revealing

06 14 2016

Here it is.  The love letter.  Heart on sleeve, holding breath…

Dear Reader

You are truly special.  I know that to be true.  You have a unique magic inside of you, a sparkle that is just yours – no other person in the world has exactly the same elixir of talents and experience and personality and gifts as you.  You are one of a kind.  And that special combination has something to offer everybody else.  When you shine your unique sparkle, others can feel it.  Other people want to be around it.  You inspire other people to shine bright too.  Accept it.  Claim it.  Show it off!!  It’s been gifted to you for a reason.  Don’t let it grow dim.  Dust it off.  Make today the day that shining becomes your role – it’s the kindest thing that you can do for you and everyone that knows and loves you.

From Me

Read it.  Read it again and feel it.

I feel a tad uncomfortable wearing my heart on my sleeve but this is what I believe for you.  It’s my belief that every, single person has something special to share and I feel that, in my heart, I want to help people to hear it and come to feel it…. And ultimately to live it. And here’s the best part – you role model the way for other people (especially the little people).

The reason I’m uncomfortable?  I fear I may sound … rose-tinted.

But I know for any number of people that think maybe it’s a little idealistic, there may be one other person that needs to hear this and remember it.  Because deep down you know this, right?  You are my people.

When you were a little girl you may have been told you were special and precious.  Maybe you weren’t told that but, whether you heard it or not, it was true nonetheless.  And, it’s still true now you’re a grown-up.  It never stops being true.  It’s just sometimes we forget it…. Or don’t let ourselves believe it.  It feels uncomfortable to truly be you.  

(And here we come back full circle to me feeling jittery sharing this).

But I’m feeling the fear and writing it anyway.  My reason is I feel I can help.  I’ve been unofficially learning for almost twenty years now, and have officially equipped myself with training and skills over the past 5 years to move people from fuzziness and overwhelm to clarity and direction so that they can shine.

Now I’m now opening up a limited number of spots for the summer for my Luxe Intensive sessions – these are private, 1:1 coaching days to help you to get clarity of your unique value, gifts and inner sparkleso that you can de-clutter, re-focus and consciously design your future.

Here’s how it works:

Within the Luxe Intensive programme you will get:

  • Private 1:1 coaching and my signature treatment tailor-made to suit your personal needs and requirements.
  • A preparation pack in advance of the Luxe Intensive to elicit ‘spotlight’ areas for our session.
  • A personalized feedback report to summarise your Luxe Intensive session.
  • A 45-minute ‘Completion Call’ within one month of the Luxe Intensive session to create accountability, review and future focus.

What we’ll cover:

Our time is 100% focused on you.  You will get access to my personal toolkit and the session will be uniquely tailored to you and your transformation.  It can include:
Getting absolute clarity on what you really want.

Understanding your unique value, your gifts and how to use your inner sparkle to design life on your terms.

Decluttering the doubts, fears and beliefs that are keeping you stuck.

Crafting an inspired action plan.

Defining your signature style and unlocking your true identity.

Your investment:

This complete package is £250.

What you can expect:

You’ll have a ‘temperature check’ of how things are working for you right now.  You’ll get clear on the things creating ‘mental clutter’ in your life, as well as the patterns that have been holding you back.  You’ll craft a clear vision and blueprint for your future, the key ingredient for designing a life on your terms.  You’ll create an action plan so you begin creating your future in a way that feels authentic and achievable, and have a rhythm for continuing this once our work is finished.  You’ll feel energized and confident about the future.  You’ll have fun!

The lowdown:

I am offering a limited number of spaces throughout the summer.  If you feel this is a YES for you, click HERE to book your complimentary call.

 

p.s. I’ll be sharing a bit more about this whole thing via Facebook Live this week.  Make sure you’re in the group to take part – I’ll be doing a Q&A as part of this.  

 

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Interview with Jessica Nazarali: Design a health & wellness business that sparkles

04 15 2014

I’m excited to introduce you to the very lovely Jess Nazarali.  Based in Sydney, Jess is a business coach, blogger at www.livehealthysimply.com and jessicanazarali.com & co-owner of an online health food store with her husband ShopHealthy.com.au.  She started her business while she was working full-time in the corporate world and has created a thriving business so that, earlier this year, she has been able to leave her job and focus her energy and attention on her passions.  Jess has achieved so much in just a short space of time so I’m excited for her to share her story today.  

In this video, Jess shares how she designed a health and wellness business that sparkles:

  • How growing up on a farm sowed the seed for her future entrepreneurial path.
  • What gave her the confidence to take the leap to starting her own business and blog.
  • How listening to her intuition brought about a new business direction.
  • What has driven and motivated Jess to create a business that allowed her to achieve her vision and leave her corporate job.
  • Her top three tips for women who want to get started in business

Jess and I would love to hear what vision you are going to unapologetically strive for – please share in the comments below.

p.s. Here are a few of the resources Jess mentions in her video:

Marie Forleo’s B-School

Institute of Integrative Nutrition

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Secrets of my Success: Meg Biram

03 20 2014

Prepare to be inspired… Meg Biram is a journalism graduate turned multi-passionate entrepreneur. After giving five years to roles in the corporate world with The Observer Media Group and Hallmark Cards, Meg followed her entrepreneurial instinct.  She’d been blogging to curate fashion, interiors and art since 2007 and, four years later, was able to turn her online home into a business.  From there her business has evolved to include a shop, online marketing and social media consulting, speaking and collaborations with brands including Kate Spade New York, Nike and Macy’s.  Meg also co-founded The B Bar – an online ebookshop.  

I’m excited to introduce Meg today as she shares the secrets of her success….

What has been the ‘defining moment’ that set you on the path you’re on today?  What motivated you to start your own business?

I don’t think there’s been a defining moment for me, I just always knew I’d be an entrepreneur. There are a lot of entrepreneurs in my extended family so I grew up thinking it was normal. I did the corporate world for five years and it just further solidified that it was not my thing.

 

How did you go from the seedling of a business idea to ‘open for business’?  How did you get started?  And how has your business evolved (into now multi-passionate!)?

When I started my blog back in 2007, blogging wasn’t really a business for most people. None of us realised that blogging itself could turn into a business so I always thought I’d be doing something else and blogging was just to help market it.  Obviously that changed as it became possible to monetise blogs, but once I left my Senior Designer position at Hallmark Cards in early 2011 and moved to Washington DC that’s when I started consulting seriously, and the rest of my businesses grew from there.

 

Tell me about your vision/goals for your future.
I’m always thinking about what’s next. I plan for it and act on my plan, but I allow flexibility and let things evolve and surprise me. I’ve got a lot of things in the works for 2014. 

 

How do you stay motivated and inspired?
I guess I’m never not motivated or inspired. It’s just innate for me.

 

What has been your biggest lesson learned?
That even sometimes good ideas I have aren’t necessarily what I want to spend my time doing. 

 

What have been (or still are) your biggest fears and challenges, and how do you overcome them?
I tend to put myself in a lot of situations that challenge me because I feel like you can’t grow or you aren’t taking enough risk if you aren’t kinda scared sometimes. So I know that as long as I put myself in uncomfortable positions sometimes, I’ll come out of it stronger.

 

[Tweet “You aren’t taking enough risk if you aren’t kinda scared sometimes” – @MegBiram via @EmmaGwillim”]
What do you believe is the secret of your success?
Persistence and hard work.

 

What 3 tips would you offer women on how to follow their professional ambitions and design a life that sparkles?
Research anything and everything about the industry you want to be in.
Talk to as many people as you can that have done what you want to do or something similar.
Make sure that what you want to do is unique to you.  Don’t just copy what other people are doing because you think it looks fun.  Dig deep to find your true passions and work hard to make them original to you.

 

[Tweet “”Dig deep to find your true passions and work hard to make them original to you” @MegBirman via @EmmaGwillim”]

 

Images: Abby Jiu

 

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My one big learning from running a business… so far

02 16 2014

I worked in the corporate world for eleven years.  It was all I’d known of my professional life, except for a short spell of freelancing.  I was part of a team, I was managed, I was a manager.  My working life was shared with people.

Fast-forward to this evening.  I’m sat at my desk in my home office, just me and my laptop and a cup of tea.  Were it not for the company of Jake Bugg playing in the background, you could hear a pin drop.

I like to work this way.  Actually, I LOVE it.  I can spend hours happily ‘in the zone’, as my hubby calls it.  I do my best work this way.  But, it has its pitfalls and there was one biggie holding me back.

This past week I ran my first live webinar, The 4 Secrets of Successful Working Mummies.  I’d had this on my plan since last October – four months ago!! – but I kept putting it off.  It was new and daunting and well out of my comfort zone so it got shunted down the priority list, week after week.  As I mentioned recently, I’ve been working with a business coach and, during my coaching session on the 14th January, I committed to hosting the webinar less than a month later.  And guess what?  I made it happen.  And guess what else?  It wasn’t close to being as nerve-wracking as I thought.  I actually enjoyed it. 

As I treated myself to a bubble bath later that evening, I reflected on how the webinar had gone and asked myself what had stopped me doing it sooner.  The simple answer was fear.  I was worried about what people would think.  I knew my content inside and out.  I was confident that I was sharing great value with people BUT I had no-one to reassure me.  I realised that I missed the input that I would have had if I’d been part of a team.  A senior manager to make suggestions and revisions.  Peers to encourage and motivate.  And the simple truth is I was putting off facing into these fears because I could.

It’s not the first time in my career I’ve done something that pushed my limits.  In fact, it doesn’t compare to some of the fear-inducing situations I’ve faced BUT I couldn’t shy away before.  It was my job, my responsibility and I was accountable.  Bingo!  The light went off: I hadn’t been holding myself accountable.

I looked at the other non-movers on my to-do list and recognised the same pattern.  If something was new territory or a little bit scary, I was avoiding it.  With no senior bod to report to, I was letting myself avoid things.  

Decision time.  I realised I had a choice.  I could scratch the ‘scary’ things from my plans completely OR I could face them head on and see where they lead me, personally and professionally.  If you know me at all, there was no decision to be made… I’m all about overcoming the mental blocks and hurdles to design a life and business that sparkles.  So, watch this space.  In the words of the song, from now on every day I’m hustlin’

Now it’s your turn.  What are you putting off?  I’d love for you to share in the comments below what one thing you’ve been avoiding and why… AND what action you can take to make it happen. 

P.S. Don’t you just LOVE this mug by Ashley Brooke Designs in the picture?  I think I need to treat myself to this little beaut as a daily reminder…

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Join me for free webinar: The 4 secrets of successful working mummies

02 04 2014

Do you feel like you’re constantly ‘spinning your wheels’?  Are you striving to be the best mummy, employee/entrepreneur, wife/partner, friend and feel like you’re failing at every turn?  Are you struggling to make peace with being a working mummy?

When you’re living with the unpredictable demands of mummy-hood, there’s no such thing as “work/life balance”.  But then feeling frazzled, out of control and guilty isn’t much fun either.

There is another option…

Join me for the live webinar The 4 Secrets of Successful Working Mummies where I’ll be sharing:

  • The 4 sappers of your success and energy!
  • The one big reminder that you’re not on your own
  • The 4 “secrets” that successful women swear by to design a style that fits their work and family

Reserve your place —> HERE

I know how it feels when you’re spending all your time and energy striving for your ideal yet missing the mark.  I know that it can get you down!  I also know that it IS possible to create the working lifestyle you desire so you can work on your terms and nurture your family too.  I’ve been learning the secrets of some really inspirational role models and can’t wait to share their insights with you!

Join me February 11th, 2014 @ 7.30pm GMT —> CLICK HERE

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Had your fill of the 9-5? Why you should sit tight in your cubicle (for now).

01 29 2013

I’m sure every one of us has had that ‘Monday feeling’.  You know the one – the dawning realization that the weekend is over and it’s time to go back to work and you feel sick, right to the pit of your stomach. 

 

I’ve been there.  Golly, I think my Monday morning blues started at some point on a Saturday afternoon for a while.  I knew things HAD to change. 

 

Dreading work is no fun.  It’s no way to live your life.  As someone passionate about passion, I believe YOU absolutely deserve to live the life of your dreams, to ditch the 9-5 if it’s not making you happy.  And definitely if it’s making you UNhappy.  I want you to strive for the happily ever after in your career.

 

But not NOW. 

 

Yep, you heard me right.  Don’t do it just yet. 

 

Unless you have the privilege of financial freedom that will allow you to enjoy a little time out, I urge you to stick with it.  Why?  Because I don’t want you to make the mistake that so many make.  The urgency of leaving one unfulfilling job can lead many people into repeating the same mistake over and over.  And over! 

 

Draft the resignation letter.  Update your CV.  Begin to imagine a different life.  But don’t act until you’ve considered the following:

 

  1. Take a little time to look back over your career ‘landscape’.  What have you really enjoyed about your work?  What would you happily never do again?  In the cold light of day, are there any tasks in your current work that you like?  Start to get clear on what kinds of work really appeal to you (and those that don’t) so you can start to shape what your ideal work style looks like.
  2. What is most important to you about work?  Is it the money?  Is it status?  Recognition?  Growth?  Having the freedom to be creative?  Get clear on what you value most and how you want to feel about your ideal work.  Your core values are your compass so get to work on discovering your true north.
  3. Start to think about what you enjoy doing in your spare time.  What do you happily do without getting paid?  Does this offer any clues as to the type of work that would suit you most?
  4. Set your goal.  What do you want to achieve and by when?

 

Now you are starting to get really clear.  Instead of jumping ship and securing yourself another 40 hours a week of work that you may well have outgrown, start to create a path towards your ideal work. 

 

Who is looking for your unique package of skills, experience and personality?  You never know, if you’re lucky enough to be part of a progressive company, you may well have opportunities literally on your (work) doorstep.  If not, forge your way ahead with passion and purpose. 

 

Make 2013 the year that you create the work-style of your dreams.

Source: hitta-hem.blogspot.co.nz via Fuzz One Media on Pinterest

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Secrets of my Success: The Baby Planners

07 03 2012

Nearing 33 weeks pregnant and a typical Type A personality, you’d think I’d have everything pretty much sorted for our first-born’s imminent arrival – sadly, not so!  I have my hospital bag packed – check. I’ve cobbled together a birth plan based on Google results, advice from friends and gut instinct – check. We have our ‘stork walk’ next weekend – check. But do I feel organised?  Heck, no! It’s all a little overwhelming. Talk about information overload – I’m not sure what I should and shouldn’t have done by now and every experienced mum seems to offer different advice ahead of d-day…. Not to mention all the questions I have for when the little bundle arrives.  Given my mounting panic, I was intrigued to hear about The Baby Planners – run by former nannies, Gemma and Simone, the company is a ‘concierge’ service for expectant parents facing similar overwhelm to myself through “bump, birth and beyond”.

I’m all ears this week to hear of the inspiration behind this power duo and their innovative company.  Enjoy!

Tell me a little about you, your enterprise, your mission!

The Baby Planners is a London-based baby planning and maternity concierge company dedicated to providing support and guidance to new and expectant parents?

What is your vision of your best life?

We would love The Baby Planners to be a big success and be able to branch out into charity and community events – doing work we love that helps people as well as having a happy home life would be perfect.

Can you tell us about some of the challenges/obstacles/fears you’ve faced and how you’ve tackled them.

Simone: I’m a bit of a control freak so delegating tasks and trusting that they’re completed was a problem for me at first but, with a bit of practise, I’m getting better and don’t feel the need to keep checking up…which I’m sure is appreciated by Gemma!

Gemma: I have a big fear of public speaking and talking to strangers, so much so that I missed every class at college where I had to speak in front of a group! I still don’t like it but the more I’ve had to speak to new people for The Baby Planners the easier it’s got.

As for challenges for our company, finding a good balance between work and play has been hard. Having enough time to spend with loved ones and friends as well as looking after The Baby Planners is important and we’ve had to learn to prioritise.

Have you ever thought you had everything planned, only for life to show you an alternative?

Simone: All the time! I’m very much a planner only to have my plans changed at the last minute. I have learned that you just have to go with the flow and that everything happens for a reason.

Gemma: I wouldnt say i have things “planned out” but I normally know what path I’m on. I never expected to do some of the things I’ve done though and I’ve had a couple of curve balls thrown at me, the biggest of which was moving to another country for a few years. It was spur of the moment and if I hadn’t done it my life would be very different now.

Has there been a ‘defining moment’ that has changed your life or your view of life? What has been the nudge in the right direction for you?

Gemma: When my grandmother, who I was very close to, died I realised I could have done so much more by that point if I’d had more focus. It gave me the kick I needed to go out and do the things I wanted to do before it was too late. Figuring out what I enjoyed doing and focusing on those things helped me put the idea for The Baby Planners together.

Simone: Starting our own business has changed my life. I never thought I would have the skills needed to run a company. After many years of former bosses telling me that I had the skills to branch out on my own I finally took the plunge with Gemma and I have loved every moment since.

If you were to look back and offer advice to yourself, what 3 pearls of wisdom would you share?

Gemma:

Don’t waste money on things you don’t really need.
Do what’s right for you and not what everybody says you should do.
Figure out what it is you love doing and do it. It makes getting up at 6am much easier!

Simone:

Don’t rush. Take your time and all will work out in the end.
Trust your instint.
Communication. It’s vital especially with a business partner.

What book, piece of music, blog, quote or person inspires you the most?

Simone: I have such a diverse set of inspirations that I couldn’t pick just one. However, when I need a pick me up I head over to Tate Modern to spend a few hours looking at the paintings and then head into the members area to look over the River Thames to St. Paul’s Cathedral. The view of London on the Thames never fails to inspire me.

Gemma: I like quotes that give me hope that what I want to achieve in life is possible and remind me that the only person that can make it happen is me – like this one: “The best way to predict your future is to create it” by Peter F. Drucker

Keeping with Simone’s art theme I also really like this quote: “Everything you can imagine is real.” – Pablo Picasso.

Any last words of advice?

Simone: Buy a small note book to keep in your handbag. Jot down anything that inspires you or those random ideas that seem to pop into your head on the journey home.

Gemma: Trust your instincts and make choices that are right for you and your family not ones you think your suppose too. And lastly, if you need help or advice, ask for it.

Image: One

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