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New mum anxiety: one year on

02 09 2014

Let me give it to you straight.

I’m a lucky girl. I have a beautiful family. I’m doing work that I LOVE. My life is full of special people who support and encourage me. I know I’m blessed.

BUT…

Even with so much to be thankful for, this time last year was a low-point.

I’d quietly been struggling with new mum anxiety since Louis’ birth, unable to share with the happy mums I was meeting, and I’d isolated myself. I was negotiating a part-time return to my pre-maternity corporate role while my confidence was at rock-bottom. I felt removed from the true me. I motored through the routine of my day-to-day and had little interest in doing anything more.

My passion is encouraging women to discover and LIVE their sparkle… yet, my own sparkle was waning.

It turns out I wasn’t alone.

I needed role models. I needed mentors to look up to. I was looking for examples of women who’d made the adjustment into motherhood yet still had an identity that was authentic to them… Their sparkle.

I decided to extend an invitation to women I admired – I asked them to share their secrets, their tips and their honest accounts of the challenges they face.  I was inspired.

I began to share some of these inspiring accounts in my Secrets of my Success series.  And I have other gems lined up for this year.  The more I shared my story with women and, in return, they shared with me, the more I realised that there were common threads. Common challenges. Common worries. Common traits of success.

So I decided to put together a free “class” where I’ll be sharing The 4 Secrets of Successful Working Mummies.

If you’d like to learn the 4 “success sappers” to avoid, as well as the success traits of these women, click HERE to register for your spot.

The details:

Tuesday 11th February @ 7.30pm GMT

RESERVE MY SPOT NOW

 

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Could a fear of success be holding you back?

02 05 2013

Fear of failure.  We’ve all been there and done that.  It’s as common as the cold.  We love our comfort zones just so.  Why venture out into the dark unknown when you feel safe as you are?

But this fear’s lesser-known sibling is the fear of success.  Is it possible that it’s actually success you’re afraid of?  You may well be shaking a firm “no, not me”, maybe even thinking it sounds crazy to fear success BUT, if you’re feeling ‘stuck’ in any way, there’s likely to be a few weeds in your thinking that need uprooting. 

Bring to mind a goal you’ve had for some time but have made little or no headway in achieving.  Ask yourself: “why haven’t I made progress?”  Move beyond the excuses and justifications.  Keep asking ‘why’ with childlike curiosity and see what comes up.  What does your picture of success look like?  What DON’T you want that this success will bring?

I’ll share an example: my own fear of success.

I was a non-believer.  Of course I wanted success.  I am a hard worker and my blood, sweat and tears have all been directed in the firm direction of success.  But I was stuck.  My nemesis, procrastination, had taken a grip.  I asked myself the same questions: why hadn’t I made progress?  What was in my picture of success that I DIDN’T want?

The answer surprised me!  I truly value freedom and authenticity … and, somewhere in the back of my mind, these two values would be threatened by success.  If I achieved my vision for my business, professionally and financially, I pictured having to work long hours and having little time for the people I love.  Earning money might change people’s perception of me to the proverbial ‘poser’.  Neither are great motivators!

In getting clear on what I don’t want, it also shone a light on what I did.  Freedom to flex my time around work and family is priority.  Being successful AND being authentic and generous was my ideal.

What I needed were examples, role models to follow – and I urge you to do the same.  Who did I know (in person or famous) who had achieved success which brought them greater freedom, financial wealth AND a reputation for being genuine and giving?  By finding examples of people I could model my version of success on, the symptoms (procrastination) of my stuck-ness begin to shift.

Now, it’s your turn. 

What is it that’s stopping you making progress towards the success you desire?  Who could be your role model for your new version of success? 

I’d love to hear your comments.

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