becoming own boss

Nesting for business and a baby... with a success mindset

03 02 2014

Our house has been upside down this past week.  We’ve been emptying and decorating our spare room to make room for our new little arrival in April. The teeny baby clothes are out of storage, washed and ready for their new home. All the kit and caboodle a newborn needs has been ordered.  Nesting season has officially started.  There are 7 weeks to go and I’m getting prepared.

Among the chaos, I realised something. We’re making room in our home and our lives for something we want to happen – welcoming the new addition to our family.  We’ve got total belief that, this springtime, we’ll be a family of four.  That belief has created action in the form of a big, pre-baby to-do list for me (and mostly for my husband).

Where in your life could you do with a bit more belief?  Where should you be ‘nesting’?

Think of a goal or vision you have for your career or business.  Do you believe 100% that you WILL make it happen, that you will bring that goal into the world?  And are you ‘nesting’ for it?  Imagine when you want to have achieved this goal.  If you knew it would absolutely be a reality on that date, would you be ready for it?  If it arrived into the world a little early – like today or tomorrow – would you be ready for it?

I realised I’d been ‘putting off’ a few things in my own business as I was waiting until I’d got ‘there’, achieved my big goal.  What my little nesting frenzy taught me is that, by waiting, I was keeping that goal just out of reach.  If, instead, I had total and utter belief that it will happen I’d be doing a few things differently.  When I asked myself “if I’d achieved this goal today, would I be ready?” I couldn’t honestly answer yes.  I needed to get my house in order.  I needed to ‘nest’ for my business.

So, over to you.  Think about your goal.  Imagine it’s here now, wrapped up in a big, red bow, ready for you to start living it – are you ready?  What actions can you take now to demonstrate your total belief that it will happen?  Share with us what 1-3 actions you will take to ‘nest’ for your goal in the Comments below.

p.s. Isn’t this little set of Matroyshka dolls cute?  I found it here

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Can you be more productive in less time? The 4 surprise pay-offs of doing less.

02 23 2014

Tell me, my dear Glitterati girls, have you ever had one of those days where you feel like you’re running half an hour late for your own life?  You’re over-committed, busy and trying to get way too much done in too little time?  You somehow manage to pull it off (you are a super-woman after all!) but end the day exhausted, mentally and physically.  How frequent are those days?

I’ve been at high-speed since new year.  I admit that I kind of like it like that – it makes me feel like I’m being productive, making progress. Sometimes though it means I’m hurriedly ticking things of an endless to-do list, hurtling forward yet not looking up to see where I’m heading.

This past week I instinctively felt like I needed to slow the pace a little and breathe.  It goes against the grain for me.  Unless I’m doing something I feel like I’m wasting my precious time.  But, I’m learning, slowing down can make you more productive.  

Would you try to slow the pace a little this week?  Here are four reasons to give it a go:

  • You can hear the penny drop: When I wasn’t racing at a hundred miles an hour, I started seeing some obvious answers to things I’d been working on.  Obvious, stare-you-in-the-face answers.  Forehead-to-palm-of-hand moments of realisation.  I could see what I’d been doing right and what I needed to differently.  I could have wasted hours being busy but, by taking the time to just let it simmer, the answer was there in a fraction of the time.  
  • You get to be a human being: Catch me ‘in the zone’ and you’d see me quiet, concentrated, busy.  In my own little bubble. Stepping away from the doing has meant I’ve had more time to connect to people.  Actually talking and sharing and relating a little more.  Some of these conversations have led to opportunities that I could never have planned for or created from my busy ‘doing’.  By allowing myself to ‘be’, doors have opened that I’d have missed before.
  • You realise you can’t do it all on your own: Just crack on and get it done.  Sound familiar?  What if you can get it done with a little help. Is there anything you think you should be doing that you could get a helping hand with?  I’m a technophobe but I’m also pretty independent so, when it came to trying to solve a techie problem, I was tempted to default to my usual I-can-work-it-out-for-myself attitude. And I probably could have with a LOT of Googling!  But, instead, I posted a question in a Facebook group and very quickly got an offer of help – a techie angel appeared, gave me 30 minutes of her time (out of the goodness of her heart) and, bingo, I had my answer. People are kind.  People love to help out.  Slow down and share more and you never know who might swoop to your aid.
  • It’s flipping nice: How about, it’s nice to slow down because it feels better than the usual break-neck speed? Yep, it gets my vote too.  I spent Friday – a work day! – enjoying  some  quality time with my friend.  We drank coffee, had a leisurely lunch and chatted.  It was a complete tonic.  

Now, as uncomfortable as this might be, it’s your turn.  Can you slow the pace this week?  What time can you earmark for yourself to cast the to-do list aside and switch off?  I’d love you to share in the comments below.

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My one big learning from running a business… so far

02 16 2014

I worked in the corporate world for eleven years.  It was all I’d known of my professional life, except for a short spell of freelancing.  I was part of a team, I was managed, I was a manager.  My working life was shared with people.

Fast-forward to this evening.  I’m sat at my desk in my home office, just me and my laptop and a cup of tea.  Were it not for the company of Jake Bugg playing in the background, you could hear a pin drop.

I like to work this way.  Actually, I LOVE it.  I can spend hours happily ‘in the zone’, as my hubby calls it.  I do my best work this way.  But, it has its pitfalls and there was one biggie holding me back.

This past week I ran my first live webinar, The 4 Secrets of Successful Working Mummies.  I’d had this on my plan since last October – four months ago!! – but I kept putting it off.  It was new and daunting and well out of my comfort zone so it got shunted down the priority list, week after week.  As I mentioned recently, I’ve been working with a business coach and, during my coaching session on the 14th January, I committed to hosting the webinar less than a month later.  And guess what?  I made it happen.  And guess what else?  It wasn’t close to being as nerve-wracking as I thought.  I actually enjoyed it. 

As I treated myself to a bubble bath later that evening, I reflected on how the webinar had gone and asked myself what had stopped me doing it sooner.  The simple answer was fear.  I was worried about what people would think.  I knew my content inside and out.  I was confident that I was sharing great value with people BUT I had no-one to reassure me.  I realised that I missed the input that I would have had if I’d been part of a team.  A senior manager to make suggestions and revisions.  Peers to encourage and motivate.  And the simple truth is I was putting off facing into these fears because I could.

It’s not the first time in my career I’ve done something that pushed my limits.  In fact, it doesn’t compare to some of the fear-inducing situations I’ve faced BUT I couldn’t shy away before.  It was my job, my responsibility and I was accountable.  Bingo!  The light went off: I hadn’t been holding myself accountable.

I looked at the other non-movers on my to-do list and recognised the same pattern.  If something was new territory or a little bit scary, I was avoiding it.  With no senior bod to report to, I was letting myself avoid things.  

Decision time.  I realised I had a choice.  I could scratch the ‘scary’ things from my plans completely OR I could face them head on and see where they lead me, personally and professionally.  If you know me at all, there was no decision to be made… I’m all about overcoming the mental blocks and hurdles to design a life and business that sparkles.  So, watch this space.  In the words of the song, from now on every day I’m hustlin’

Now it’s your turn.  What are you putting off?  I’d love for you to share in the comments below what one thing you’ve been avoiding and why… AND what action you can take to make it happen. 

P.S. Don’t you just LOVE this mug by Ashley Brooke Designs in the picture?  I think I need to treat myself to this little beaut as a daily reminder…

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New mum anxiety: one year on

02 09 2014

Let me give it to you straight.

I’m a lucky girl. I have a beautiful family. I’m doing work that I LOVE. My life is full of special people who support and encourage me. I know I’m blessed.

BUT…

Even with so much to be thankful for, this time last year was a low-point.

I’d quietly been struggling with new mum anxiety since Louis’ birth, unable to share with the happy mums I was meeting, and I’d isolated myself. I was negotiating a part-time return to my pre-maternity corporate role while my confidence was at rock-bottom. I felt removed from the true me. I motored through the routine of my day-to-day and had little interest in doing anything more.

My passion is encouraging women to discover and LIVE their sparkle… yet, my own sparkle was waning.

It turns out I wasn’t alone.

I needed role models. I needed mentors to look up to. I was looking for examples of women who’d made the adjustment into motherhood yet still had an identity that was authentic to them… Their sparkle.

I decided to extend an invitation to women I admired – I asked them to share their secrets, their tips and their honest accounts of the challenges they face.  I was inspired.

I began to share some of these inspiring accounts in my Secrets of my Success series.  And I have other gems lined up for this year.  The more I shared my story with women and, in return, they shared with me, the more I realised that there were common threads. Common challenges. Common worries. Common traits of success.

So I decided to put together a free “class” where I’ll be sharing The 4 Secrets of Successful Working Mummies.

If you’d like to learn the 4 “success sappers” to avoid, as well as the success traits of these women, click HERE to register for your spot.

The details:

Tuesday 11th February @ 7.30pm GMT

RESERVE MY SPOT NOW

 

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Had your fill of the 9-5? Why you should sit tight in your cubicle (for now).

01 29 2013

I’m sure every one of us has had that ‘Monday feeling’.  You know the one – the dawning realization that the weekend is over and it’s time to go back to work and you feel sick, right to the pit of your stomach. 

 

I’ve been there.  Golly, I think my Monday morning blues started at some point on a Saturday afternoon for a while.  I knew things HAD to change. 

 

Dreading work is no fun.  It’s no way to live your life.  As someone passionate about passion, I believe YOU absolutely deserve to live the life of your dreams, to ditch the 9-5 if it’s not making you happy.  And definitely if it’s making you UNhappy.  I want you to strive for the happily ever after in your career.

 

But not NOW. 

 

Yep, you heard me right.  Don’t do it just yet. 

 

Unless you have the privilege of financial freedom that will allow you to enjoy a little time out, I urge you to stick with it.  Why?  Because I don’t want you to make the mistake that so many make.  The urgency of leaving one unfulfilling job can lead many people into repeating the same mistake over and over.  And over! 

 

Draft the resignation letter.  Update your CV.  Begin to imagine a different life.  But don’t act until you’ve considered the following:

 

  1. Take a little time to look back over your career ‘landscape’.  What have you really enjoyed about your work?  What would you happily never do again?  In the cold light of day, are there any tasks in your current work that you like?  Start to get clear on what kinds of work really appeal to you (and those that don’t) so you can start to shape what your ideal work style looks like.
  2. What is most important to you about work?  Is it the money?  Is it status?  Recognition?  Growth?  Having the freedom to be creative?  Get clear on what you value most and how you want to feel about your ideal work.  Your core values are your compass so get to work on discovering your true north.
  3. Start to think about what you enjoy doing in your spare time.  What do you happily do without getting paid?  Does this offer any clues as to the type of work that would suit you most?
  4. Set your goal.  What do you want to achieve and by when?

 

Now you are starting to get really clear.  Instead of jumping ship and securing yourself another 40 hours a week of work that you may well have outgrown, start to create a path towards your ideal work. 

 

Who is looking for your unique package of skills, experience and personality?  You never know, if you’re lucky enough to be part of a progressive company, you may well have opportunities literally on your (work) doorstep.  If not, forge your way ahead with passion and purpose. 

 

Make 2013 the year that you create the work-style of your dreams.

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