Re-discovering my inner sparkle: part one

03 19 2013

What is the thing that makes you light up? Feel alive? What is it at your core that is uniquely you – your ‘inner sparkle’ as I call it?

It took a fair bit of soul-searching and course correction over my working life, but I got clear on what makes me feel alight: nurturing people to awaken to their unique potential. Of that I have no question, but as I mentioned last week, I’m being ‘nudged’ into taking a new direction for this.  And I promised to listen to the nudges.

I’ve been giving myself the time and space to re-connect to my inner sparkle.  This week I’m refreshing an exercise I’ve done before by taking a trip down memory lane… And exposing my inner geek!

If you need to remember what it’s like to live your inner sparkle, spend some time with a child.  One minute it’s pure joy, the next temper tantrums.  I adore the pure self-expression!  If you can reconnect with that childlike part of yourself, can you remember the things that brought you joy? What did you love to do? What were you good at? What are you doing in your happiest memories?

I’ve been reflecting a little on these questions myself and memories started flowing of my childlike self:

  • The typical girl, I loved my dolls! One Christmas I became the proud “mummy” to twins and spent my play-time proudly wheeling the twins around in my green Silver Cross double pram.  I moved onwards and upwards to become ‘mummy’ to a baby boy (a Tiny Tears doll named Stefan). I remember being at school and counting down the hours until I could get home to care of baby Stefan.  I’d change him, give him bottles of water (testing the temperature on my wrist, of course!), and feed him baby food (aka: crushed digestive biscuits with water). I was devoted.
  • Not quite so typical was my love of playing businesses with my sister and my friend, Sally. We raided the local agent’s summer sun brochures when we set up our own Travel Agency, we ran an Estate Agency and, my favourite, we managed a hotel.  Santa brought us all a briefcase one year and we’d proudly walk to each others house to play at our latest enterprise carrying our briefcases – empty apart for a pencil and jotter.  
  • I remember staying at my friend Joanna’s house regularly on Friday evenings after our swimming lesson and her parents allowed us to watch Dynasty.  I was mesmerised by the glamour of it all – the clothes, the offices, the power.  It was my first insight into strong, power-dressing business women and I was smitten.  
  • My love of words started early.  I can still feel the pride when my teacher Mrs Edgington praised my spelling and reading ability.  I remember a supply teacher reading fiction to us and being so caught up in the imaginary world of Mrs Frisby & The Rats of NIMH. I must have idled away hours with my head in books.  And then my love turned to playing with words, expressing them in my own way through the joy of writing.
  • The new school year was magical to me because it marked the time for new stationery.  Oh, how I loved starting a new notebook, using my new pen and my ‘best handwriting’ to begin.  I was a perfectionist at backing my school books, ironing out the bubbles with my new, shatterproof ruler.  And don’t get me started on the fun of picking files, dividers and plastic wallets. I loved the freshness, the neatness, how organised everything looked.

 

I took some time to reflect on these memories and started to look for the threads that run through to my adulthood.  What is it about these times that brought me joy or when I felt at such ease that reflect the authentic me, my inner sparkle?  

The twins and Stefan: Front and centre for me is being a nurturer.  I love to look after people and this shows up in so many ways – from the biggies such as trying to be a good mummy, wife, daughter, sister and friend, to the simple pleasures of enjoying being the hostess.  It’s also true of the work that I’m most passionate about – nurturing people to awaken to, and live, their potential.

Playing businesses: Not quite your average childhood role play but it’s a big indicator to a passion I have to this day – I admire entrepreneurship.  I completely respect people that have the courage and gumption to go out there on their own.  I am fascinated in finding out how people “got there” and love to peek behind the curtain of small, creative enterprises.

The glamour of Dynasty:  A bit of an extension of my interest in entrepreneurship but it’s women in business that gets me interested.  But not just anyone – while I admire women who have made their way up the corporate ladder, those that earn my respect are the ones who have made it as their own boss.  A big value for me is freedom and I look up to women who have the freedom to create work on their terms, NOT by towing the line of a corporate vision.  And, of course, being Dynasty, the glamour had massive appeal!  The clothes, the artfully manicured nails, the lifestyle!

Word play: This one is simple.  I love to write.  It feels natural.  It brings me joy.  It gives me a rare sense of pride.  I love to be creative and writing is just one expression of that.

Stationery geek:  Well, I still get giddy about fresh, new notebooks and I love a ‘nice writer’ (pen), so my love affair with stationery lives on.  But there’s a little more to it.  I love to organise and the nurturer in me likes to help others to do the same.  This can be as simple as the gesture of treating someone to something that I know will make their life easier, to helping someone organise the mental chaos they feel when facing a problem or striving for a goal, by calmly helping them to break it down into manageable chunks.  

 

My inner sparkle, even in those early years, is all about nurturing, the courage of entrepreneurship, glamour, freedom, a passion for writing, and a keen-ness for problem solving and organisation.

 

I’d love to hear from you in the Comments below: 

What were the things that you loved to do as a child?

What were you naturally good at?

Can you see these traits and values living out in your ‘grown up’ life?

 

Next week, I’m going to be taking this a little further in looking at role models.

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What to do when you’re doubting the next step (aka my current predicament)

03 12 2013

As I sit here writing this, I’m tasting a little of my own medicine.

I’m on unsettled ground but this time I recognise it. I’ve been here before. Something feels a little… off. Something isn’t sitting quite right with my world. I’m striving for authenticity and something feels not quite ‘me’.

And I don’t know the answer.

(Gasp.)

This, my friend, is uncomfortable. You know I’m a perfectionist. My inner Type A wants everything to be just right before even thinking about taking the first step. Let alone, be stepping out there and then getting a dose of the wobbles.

But this is my year for changing my perfectionist ways. As they say, if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got. I’ve ignored these whispers before and paid the price.

This is the year that I’m accepting that I’m NOT the finished article. I’m a work in progress and I don’t have all the answers. And, actually, maybe some of the fun is in NOT having the answers and finding out as I go.

I know where my heart lies. It lies right here, with you. It lies in that ‘aha moment’ when the penny drops for someone. It lies in putting my fingers to the keyboard and writing. It lies in seeing someone recognise their beautiful potential, when their world moves in rhythm with their effort. It’s lies in my faith that if I can make just one person see their brilliance, I’m fulfilled.

But there’s a BUT.

My heart and my mind are wanting to take all of this in a different direction. And I know I must listen. It’s never failed me before. But the truth is I don’t know quite what that direction is. And that has me on a cliff-edge (and I’m not keen on heights)!

This week, for me, is all about listening. Listen to the whispers. (Click to tweet). I am finding quiet and the time to nourish myself, to listen. Only then will I start to understand where these ‘nudges’ are directing me. And when I finally get the message, I’ll be right back here to share with you.

I’d love to hear from you…

Have you ever been ‘nudged’ in a different direction when you thought you had everything mapped out?

Did you listen?

Where did it take you?

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It could be YOU...

03 05 2013

I’m sat here, writing, and thinking of you.  Yes, YOU!

I made a promise to myself earlier this year.  I committed to putting my words, my voice, out there through my blog every week without fail. 

But that’s only half the story.  You are the other half.

It’s the why behind that promise that’s more important to me. 

I want to help.  I want to be a trusty friend that is your biggest cheerleader, your number one supporter.  You have a unique brilliance and I want you to realise it.  And live it.

And so, I can keep my promise by showing up each and every week but I’m here thinking about how I can best help YOU. 

How can I best show up FOR YOU each week?  What can I best help you with?  What do you want to hear about?  And when do you want to hear from me? 

I’d love to hear how I can offer most value to you by answering a couple of quick questions in the Comments below.  It should take no more than a minute of your time yet I promise it will be returned to you ten-fold!

Post your answers to these questions in the Comments below:

–       What is your biggest worry or fear?

–       What do you most desire to create in your life?

–       When is the best time for you to receive/read an email/blog that interests you? (Which day of the week?  What time of day?)

–       Is there anything else I should know?  How can I most help?

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Facing my fears, one email at a time. (Warning: personal disclosure)

02 12 2013
I have a big flaw.

One that’s paralysing my forward motion.

A flaw that is beyond ridiculous (except, maybe, for you superheroes out there).

As a baby, were you able to walk on your first attempt?  Were you able to drive a car as soon as you got behind the wheel?  No?  Me neither.  So why do I fear ‘getting it wrong’ so badly?

Ladies, my name’s Emma and I’m a perfectionist.

Yes, it has an upside – I’m a hard-worker, I put my best into wherever my focus is, it makes me pretty reliable.  But the upside isn’t worth the sheer drop of the downside. 

Downside, you have me hesitating.  Holding off taking risks.  Afraid to make a mistake.  Afraid to make a decision

In a world of uncertainty, perfectionism gives me just a glimmer of the certainty it seems I crave.  Rationally I know nothing is guaranteed.  That “fortune favours the brave”.  Well, maybe I’m just not brave enough.

We’re already into the second month of the year and my resolve to put myself ‘out there’ this year, to take risks, is already waning.

Take my upcoming group programme, Life By Design, for example.  I’ve worked hard on designing something that resonates and creates results.  I’ve trialled it with a group of inspiring women.  I’ve refined and enhanced the original.  I’ve added in a few bonuses.  Realistically there should be no risk.  It’s been tested (not on animals) – but still I hesitate.

What ifs flood my brain. 

And so, today I’m taking a stand.  I’m taking a risk.  I’m sharing with you the big three things that I want to put ‘out there’ this year … and then there’s no going back.

  1. Launch Life By Design this Springtime.
  2. Introduce video newsletters.  I love sharing with you each week but I’d love to speak to YOU directly.  (This requires facing a BIG fear of mine – public speaking).
  3. Ask for help.  I want to research and fine-tune an idea I have for a book (gulp – there, I’ve said it).  It means me asking of busy, successful people.  Huge perfectionist leap!

There.  It’s out there.  Now I risk a very public display of ‘egg on my face’ if I don’t act.  If I wait for everything to be perfect, I’ll probably be waiting forever.  You can hold me accountable.

Now it’s your turn.

Is there a flaw that you need to ‘name and shame’? What can you do today to show it who’s boss?  I’d love for you to share in the Comments below…

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Could a fear of success be holding you back?

02 05 2013

Fear of failure.  We’ve all been there and done that.  It’s as common as the cold.  We love our comfort zones just so.  Why venture out into the dark unknown when you feel safe as you are?

But this fear’s lesser-known sibling is the fear of success.  Is it possible that it’s actually success you’re afraid of?  You may well be shaking a firm “no, not me”, maybe even thinking it sounds crazy to fear success BUT, if you’re feeling ‘stuck’ in any way, there’s likely to be a few weeds in your thinking that need uprooting. 

Bring to mind a goal you’ve had for some time but have made little or no headway in achieving.  Ask yourself: “why haven’t I made progress?”  Move beyond the excuses and justifications.  Keep asking ‘why’ with childlike curiosity and see what comes up.  What does your picture of success look like?  What DON’T you want that this success will bring?

I’ll share an example: my own fear of success.

I was a non-believer.  Of course I wanted success.  I am a hard worker and my blood, sweat and tears have all been directed in the firm direction of success.  But I was stuck.  My nemesis, procrastination, had taken a grip.  I asked myself the same questions: why hadn’t I made progress?  What was in my picture of success that I DIDN’T want?

The answer surprised me!  I truly value freedom and authenticity … and, somewhere in the back of my mind, these two values would be threatened by success.  If I achieved my vision for my business, professionally and financially, I pictured having to work long hours and having little time for the people I love.  Earning money might change people’s perception of me to the proverbial ‘poser’.  Neither are great motivators!

In getting clear on what I don’t want, it also shone a light on what I did.  Freedom to flex my time around work and family is priority.  Being successful AND being authentic and generous was my ideal.

What I needed were examples, role models to follow – and I urge you to do the same.  Who did I know (in person or famous) who had achieved success which brought them greater freedom, financial wealth AND a reputation for being genuine and giving?  By finding examples of people I could model my version of success on, the symptoms (procrastination) of my stuck-ness begin to shift.

Now, it’s your turn. 

What is it that’s stopping you making progress towards the success you desire?  Who could be your role model for your new version of success? 

I’d love to hear your comments.

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Had your fill of the 9-5? Why you should sit tight in your cubicle (for now).

01 29 2013

I’m sure every one of us has had that ‘Monday feeling’.  You know the one – the dawning realization that the weekend is over and it’s time to go back to work and you feel sick, right to the pit of your stomach. 

 

I’ve been there.  Golly, I think my Monday morning blues started at some point on a Saturday afternoon for a while.  I knew things HAD to change. 

 

Dreading work is no fun.  It’s no way to live your life.  As someone passionate about passion, I believe YOU absolutely deserve to live the life of your dreams, to ditch the 9-5 if it’s not making you happy.  And definitely if it’s making you UNhappy.  I want you to strive for the happily ever after in your career.

 

But not NOW. 

 

Yep, you heard me right.  Don’t do it just yet. 

 

Unless you have the privilege of financial freedom that will allow you to enjoy a little time out, I urge you to stick with it.  Why?  Because I don’t want you to make the mistake that so many make.  The urgency of leaving one unfulfilling job can lead many people into repeating the same mistake over and over.  And over! 

 

Draft the resignation letter.  Update your CV.  Begin to imagine a different life.  But don’t act until you’ve considered the following:

 

  1. Take a little time to look back over your career ‘landscape’.  What have you really enjoyed about your work?  What would you happily never do again?  In the cold light of day, are there any tasks in your current work that you like?  Start to get clear on what kinds of work really appeal to you (and those that don’t) so you can start to shape what your ideal work style looks like.
  2. What is most important to you about work?  Is it the money?  Is it status?  Recognition?  Growth?  Having the freedom to be creative?  Get clear on what you value most and how you want to feel about your ideal work.  Your core values are your compass so get to work on discovering your true north.
  3. Start to think about what you enjoy doing in your spare time.  What do you happily do without getting paid?  Does this offer any clues as to the type of work that would suit you most?
  4. Set your goal.  What do you want to achieve and by when?

 

Now you are starting to get really clear.  Instead of jumping ship and securing yourself another 40 hours a week of work that you may well have outgrown, start to create a path towards your ideal work. 

 

Who is looking for your unique package of skills, experience and personality?  You never know, if you’re lucky enough to be part of a progressive company, you may well have opportunities literally on your (work) doorstep.  If not, forge your way ahead with passion and purpose. 

 

Make 2013 the year that you create the work-style of your dreams.

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The truth about my disappearing act (and why I’m back with gusto!)

01 23 2013

It’s been a little while since I’ve even put my fingers to the keyboard to write this blog.  The truth is, I had to juggle my priorities around for a short while as I’ve been somewhat busy in my family life – namely, relocating to a new home in a beautiful part of North Yorkshire and, very soon after, giving birth to our gorgeous baby boy and adjusting to life as a mummy.  It has been a rollercoaster few months!

In amongst all of that I’ve been crafting and creating some very exciting launches for the year ahead.  Life By Designthe virtual coaching programme designed to awaken your dazzling purpose, has been under-going a facelift and will soon be re-launching.  Spaces will be limited for the spring group so be sure to keep your eyes peeled for the launch over the next few weeks.  I’m also hugely excited to be planning the very first Illumine retreat this summer.  

And so, a belated happy new year to you.  I hope 2013 has gotten off to a fulfilling start for you.  What promise does the year hold for you?  Have you got a clear line of sight to your goals for the year?  If you need a helping hand, get your copy of the free goal-getters guide here.

I’m always excited to hear what you’re striving for.  To make sure I’m giving you, dear reader, the most value I possibly can, I’d love for you to answer this one question:

What is the one thing that is holding you back from reaching for your goals and dreams this year?

In the comments below, give me a brief outline of your goal and let me know what your hurdle is.

I can guarantee that whatever the hurdle is for you, someone else reading this newsletter will be feeling exactly the same way.  For that reason, I’ll be (anonymously) offering tips and advice to move you beyond these blockers in my newsletter over the next few months.  Be sure to let me know how I can help YOU make this year your best year yet.

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Secrets of my Success: The Baby Planners

07 03 2012

Nearing 33 weeks pregnant and a typical Type A personality, you’d think I’d have everything pretty much sorted for our first-born’s imminent arrival – sadly, not so!  I have my hospital bag packed – check. I’ve cobbled together a birth plan based on Google results, advice from friends and gut instinct – check. We have our ‘stork walk’ next weekend – check. But do I feel organised?  Heck, no! It’s all a little overwhelming. Talk about information overload – I’m not sure what I should and shouldn’t have done by now and every experienced mum seems to offer different advice ahead of d-day…. Not to mention all the questions I have for when the little bundle arrives.  Given my mounting panic, I was intrigued to hear about The Baby Planners – run by former nannies, Gemma and Simone, the company is a ‘concierge’ service for expectant parents facing similar overwhelm to myself through “bump, birth and beyond”.

I’m all ears this week to hear of the inspiration behind this power duo and their innovative company.  Enjoy!

Tell me a little about you, your enterprise, your mission!

The Baby Planners is a London-based baby planning and maternity concierge company dedicated to providing support and guidance to new and expectant parents?

What is your vision of your best life?

We would love The Baby Planners to be a big success and be able to branch out into charity and community events – doing work we love that helps people as well as having a happy home life would be perfect.

Can you tell us about some of the challenges/obstacles/fears you’ve faced and how you’ve tackled them.

Simone: I’m a bit of a control freak so delegating tasks and trusting that they’re completed was a problem for me at first but, with a bit of practise, I’m getting better and don’t feel the need to keep checking up…which I’m sure is appreciated by Gemma!

Gemma: I have a big fear of public speaking and talking to strangers, so much so that I missed every class at college where I had to speak in front of a group! I still don’t like it but the more I’ve had to speak to new people for The Baby Planners the easier it’s got.

As for challenges for our company, finding a good balance between work and play has been hard. Having enough time to spend with loved ones and friends as well as looking after The Baby Planners is important and we’ve had to learn to prioritise.

Have you ever thought you had everything planned, only for life to show you an alternative?

Simone: All the time! I’m very much a planner only to have my plans changed at the last minute. I have learned that you just have to go with the flow and that everything happens for a reason.

Gemma: I wouldnt say i have things “planned out” but I normally know what path I’m on. I never expected to do some of the things I’ve done though and I’ve had a couple of curve balls thrown at me, the biggest of which was moving to another country for a few years. It was spur of the moment and if I hadn’t done it my life would be very different now.

Has there been a ‘defining moment’ that has changed your life or your view of life? What has been the nudge in the right direction for you?

Gemma: When my grandmother, who I was very close to, died I realised I could have done so much more by that point if I’d had more focus. It gave me the kick I needed to go out and do the things I wanted to do before it was too late. Figuring out what I enjoyed doing and focusing on those things helped me put the idea for The Baby Planners together.

Simone: Starting our own business has changed my life. I never thought I would have the skills needed to run a company. After many years of former bosses telling me that I had the skills to branch out on my own I finally took the plunge with Gemma and I have loved every moment since.

If you were to look back and offer advice to yourself, what 3 pearls of wisdom would you share?

Gemma:

Don’t waste money on things you don’t really need.
Do what’s right for you and not what everybody says you should do.
Figure out what it is you love doing and do it. It makes getting up at 6am much easier!

Simone:

Don’t rush. Take your time and all will work out in the end.
Trust your instint.
Communication. It’s vital especially with a business partner.

What book, piece of music, blog, quote or person inspires you the most?

Simone: I have such a diverse set of inspirations that I couldn’t pick just one. However, when I need a pick me up I head over to Tate Modern to spend a few hours looking at the paintings and then head into the members area to look over the River Thames to St. Paul’s Cathedral. The view of London on the Thames never fails to inspire me.

Gemma: I like quotes that give me hope that what I want to achieve in life is possible and remind me that the only person that can make it happen is me – like this one: “The best way to predict your future is to create it” by Peter F. Drucker

Keeping with Simone’s art theme I also really like this quote: “Everything you can imagine is real.” – Pablo Picasso.

Any last words of advice?

Simone: Buy a small note book to keep in your handbag. Jot down anything that inspires you or those random ideas that seem to pop into your head on the journey home.

Gemma: Trust your instincts and make choices that are right for you and your family not ones you think your suppose too. And lastly, if you need help or advice, ask for it.

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Secrets of my Success: Financial Freedom Coach Karie Hill

06 13 2012

Money.  What does the word mean to you?  It’s just five little letters but it’s bound to be loaded with meaning for you, probably since the day you were given that first shiny coin for your piggybank!  So how are you and money getting along these days?  What habits have you got in your relationship with your finances?  What are your goals?  How does financial freedom sound?  If the very words make your body relax a little, you’re going to love our inspiration this week – Financial Freedom Coach Karie Hill.

Karie walks the talk – a former police officer, she created her own financial freedom that has allowed her to create a business she is passionate about.  I speak from my own experience of being coached through one of her group programmes when I say that she is a great role model – as both a financially-savvy  woman and as someone who clearly puts heart, soul and courage into her work.

 

Tell me a little about you, your business and your mission!

I am a financial freedom coach with a mission of getting thousands of women out of debt. When women get this part of their life handled, things start to open up in the most beautiful way and they’re able to experience the gift of freedom – the freedom to choose their best life.

What is your vision of your best life? 

I want everyone I come in contact with to leave the experience feeling inspired by our connection. In order to do that, I have to continue to live my best life which means serving through my business, practicing what I preach and focusing on my own personal growth every day.

Can you tell us about some of the challenges, obstacles or fears you’ve faced and how you’ve tackled them?

After being in a career for nine years that was a big part of my life and identity, I decided to resign and embark on my entrepreneurial journey. I was so afraid and nobody understood how I could leave a stable job that I had spent almost a decade in. There was something inside of me that just kept pushing me forward and that’s how I live now. Even when I’m completely freaked out and scared, I just keep moving. I have never felt more free and happy in my life.

Have you ever thought you had everything planned, only for life to show you an alternative?

Yes! I’ve always been obsessed with planning and focusing on the future and I’m usually ten steps ahead of the moment. I was in a relationship and thought I had our future together planned until one day it all came crashing down. On the outside it may have seemed like just a broken relationship but it was one of my greatest lessons. I can look at the experience now and feel thankful. Life showed me an alternative to my big plans in a great way and now I’m living more present, more spontaneous and more peaceful than ever.

Has there been a ‘defining moment’ that has changed your life or your view of life?  What has been the nudge in the right direction for you?

A defining moment in my life was when I tragically lost a family member that meant the world to me. This is when I realized how short life really is and it’s up to me to create the life I really want. It sounds so cliché but it was a real experience for me. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about that moment.

If you were to look back and offer advice to yourself, what 3 pearls of wisdom would you share?

  • Stop worrying about what everyone thinks. This is your journey and it doesn’t have to make sense to anyone but you.
  • “When people show you who they are, believe them.” Maya Angelou
  • Follow your intuition. There is a little voice or feeling inside of you that is your true guide. Listen to it. Follow it.

What book, piece of music, blog, quote or person inspires you the most?

Books I believe every woman should read:

The Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle Laporte

Half the Sky by Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn

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Secrets of my Success: Be Well With Arielle

05 30 2012

I am the proverbial magpie when it comes to jewellery – some girls covet the latest killer heel, some the must-have handbag …. for me it’s jewellery in all it’s decorative form.  So, imagine if you will, the same beautiful ring catching my eye everywhere I seemed to look – snaps of bloggers wearing it, adorning some lucky lady on a YouTube video, it taunted me! And then I found it.  I was watching a Creative Abundance lecture and there was the gorgeous designer Arielle Fierman herself sporting the iloveme ring – its design includes a floating freshwater pearl and, as part of Arielle’s unique jeWELLery range, is infused with healing reiki energy.

I’m delighted that Arielle kindly shares her story: the inspiration for her creative busineas, how she’s tackled challenges that have come her way with grace and her vision for her future best life.

Tell me a little about you and your lifestyle:
My name is Arielle Jaguar Fierman. My parent’s hated their names so they gave me an initial (J) as my middle name and now I get to pick any name I want! Lately, I’ve been calling myself Arielle Jaguar. I was born and bred in Manhattan, New York City and now, I design jewellery and provide wellness tips that leave women shouting “I LOVE ME”! Check out my “I love ME” collection and delicious, easy healthy recipes at www.bewellwitharielle.com!

What is your vision of your best life?
I know I want a family – little kids running around, helping me in the kitchen, and a nice space to live and work but I really focus on today, the now.  I have a tough time looking into the future and visualizing it.  Right now, I want to be happy. And when I think of the future, all I want to be is smiling ear to ear, always happy.

Can you tell us about some of the challenges/obstacles/fears you’ve faced and how you’ve tackled them?
Right when I was starting my jewellery business, I had a lot of push-back from some of my friends and family.  They were very supportive, but they also were fearful that the recession wasn’t a good time to start a jeWELLry business. Everything I make and do has an intention behind it- to make women feel beautiful and loved and fulfilled.  Why wouldn’t someone want a piece of that?!  Amidst the negativity, I kept on going and kept on believing in myself.  I literally put up my hand and stopped the negativity in it’s tracks one time.  It worked!  Believe in what you are doing and people will start believing in you too.

Has there been a ‘defining moment’ that has changed your life or your view of it?  What has been the nudge in the right direction for you?
There have been so many defining moments/events that have brought me to where i am today – a yogi, self-help-lover and New Yorker.  The main event was when I was laid off from my job.  I called up my life coach/mentor, Gabrielle Bernstein and these were her exact words: “Wahoo! Arielle- that’s GREAT news! Now is the time that you can start your jeWELLry business!”  From that moment on, I began creating my business.  Every day since, I’ve been building my business, creating and designing beautiful pieces of jewellery that have meaning and that HELP women to love themselves and take care of themselves.

If you were to look back and offer advice to yourself, what three pearls of wisdom would you share?
1. Have fun! Life doesn’t need to be so serious – even in those “should-be serious”, very serious moments!
2. Always, always, always be yourself. Feel great in that bright, colorful eyeliner? Wear it! Don’t mind what opinions other’s have! It’s cool to be yourself, who knows? You can even be a trend starter!
3. Go to yoga, even when you dont feel like it!

What book, piece of music, blog, quote or person inspires you the most?
“Just do it”.  I have a tough time focusing – I have a very creative brain so my mind can be off in so many different directions at one time!  My lack of focus often makes me procrastinate.  When I observe myself treading, I tell myself “JUST DO IT”…and then it get’s done!

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