Being a perfectionist,

Facing my fears, one email at a time. (Warning: personal disclosure)

by Emma Gwillim on February 12, 2013

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I have a big flaw.

One that’s paralysing my forward motion.

A flaw that is beyond ridiculous (except, maybe, for you superheroes out there).

As a baby, were you able to walk on your first attempt?  Were you able to drive a car as soon as you got behind the wheel?  No?  Me neither.  So why do I fear ‘getting it wrong’ so badly?

Ladies, my name’s Emma and I’m a perfectionist.

Yes, it has an upside – I’m a hard-worker, I put my best into wherever my focus is, it makes me pretty reliable.  But the upside isn’t worth the sheer drop of the downside. 

Downside, you have me hesitating.  Holding off taking risks.  Afraid to make a mistake.  Afraid to make a decision

In a world of uncertainty, perfectionism gives me just a glimmer of the certainty it seems I crave.  Rationally I know nothing is guaranteed.  That “fortune favours the brave”.  Well, maybe I’m just not brave enough.

We’re already into the second month of the year and my resolve to put myself ‘out there’ this year, to take risks, is already waning.

Take my upcoming group programme, Life By Design, for example.  I’ve worked hard on designing something that resonates and creates results.  I’ve trialled it with a group of inspiring women.  I’ve refined and enhanced the original.  I’ve added in a few bonuses.  Realistically there should be no risk.  It’s been tested (not on animals) – but still I hesitate.

What ifs flood my brain. 

And so, today I’m taking a stand.  I’m taking a risk.  I’m sharing with you the big three things that I want to put ‘out there’ this year … and then there’s no going back.

  1. Launch Life By Design this Springtime.
  2. Introduce video newsletters.  I love sharing with you each week but I’d love to speak to YOU directly.  (This requires facing a BIG fear of mine – public speaking).
  3. Ask for help.  I want to research and fine-tune an idea I have for a book (gulp – there, I’ve said it).  It means me asking of busy, successful people.  Huge perfectionist leap!

There.  It’s out there.  Now I risk a very public display of ‘egg on my face’ if I don’t act.  If I wait for everything to be perfect, I’ll probably be waiting forever.  You can hold me accountable.

Now it’s your turn.

Is there a flaw that you need to ‘name and shame’? What can you do today to show it who’s boss?  I’d love for you to share in the Comments below…

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