Are you an Instagram-er? (And if you are, you can find me here)
I confess, I’m an Instagram-aholic. I can’t help myself. For me, it’s like a scrolling vision board… You see, as well as following people I actually know in real life, most of the people I follow are people I admire and look upto and that inspire me in some way. Most of the time I find that pretty motivating… except for the days when I’m seeing a glossy edit of someone’s life when I’m half-asleep or up-to-my-eyes in baby stuff and feeling very un-glamorous.
And then there’s the lust-list of brands I follow on Instagram – this is when it enters dangerous territory. Seeing regular posts from my favourites, like the sparkles at Astley Clarke or the chic little numbers at Reiss, is my kryptonite. Suddenly (and regularly) I’m seeing things I didn’t know I needed. Not want, need.
But that’s how it works, right? Advertising 101 is to seduce you into buying a lifestyle: “sell the sizzle, not the steak” as my old university tutor phrased it. You’d think I’d know better, having worked “in the business” for too many years to mention – it’s chasing shiny pennies.
So often, when things aren’t working out quite as we might have planned, the “ifs” and “whens” roll into town: “I’ll be happy when…” or “I’d have the job/home/partner of my dreams, if…”. I’ve been guilty of this too: whether it’s thinking a bit of Astley Clarke decoration will make me happy, or looking for a quick-fix solution to fast track me towards the lifestyle of my dreams, I’ve been looking for the genie in the lamp.
And the real truth is – and we know it – the genie isn’t going to show up. It’s simply down to you. How do you get what you want? You start. You take a few baby steps and you commit to taking those baby steps consistently. You’ve got to make it happen. You’ve got to put the work in every single day to make it happen. Wishing and hoping that things will magically change without some change on your part is the stuff of fairytales.
But, it’s in starting that the magic happens. The simplest things done consistently can bring dramatic results. It’s like the advice we were given about starting to save early: save small amounts regularly and the compound interest fairy will sprinkle her magic and see your little savings pot grow. It’s the same with getting that thing you want: start investing in it now and, a year from now, you’ll enjoy looking at the return on the investment of your time and energy.
I’ve been reminded of this truth over the past couple of weeks as I’ve taken on the #FindTimeFindYou challenge alongside many of you. My days are pretty routine and so making time to find time has been tricky on some days – especially with an unpredictable 8-week old – but I know that the genie isn’t going to appear. To design the lifestyle I dream of, I’m going to have to put the work in.
So, I’d love to hear from you. What have you been waiting for? What is the one thing you’ve been avoiding doing that you know will be difficult but you also know will move you towards your goals and ideals? Share with me in the comments below…